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Wednesday, March 21, 2012

No Man (or Woman) is An Island

I am off to a retreat tomorrow of Israeli Palestinian and international women outside of Jericho, to learn and practice together the model known as Nonviolent Communication.  This is actually the ground in which I have been gestating in and am beginning to sprout from, these last almost 10 years. I teach NVC (short for nonviolent communication) and yes, Empathy is the heart of this model.

You can read more online on www.cnvc.org but basically what we are encouraging and inspiring people to, is a shift to a feelings and needs based communication, rather than what we were educated (most of us) on: communication from the head, judgments analysis, interpretations and getting people to do what we want from a place of shame/guilt/fear of punishment.

Practicing Empathy helps us, no matter what the other person is saying, to listen to what’s in his/her heart. This requires a presence, a silencing (temporarily) of what’s going on in us, in order to create a space for the other. When a person feels heard and understood what often happens is that they come to a solution for their problem and they develop a deeper understanding and awareness of themselves.

Also, when a person has had a chance to be heard - he or she is now more open to hearing and responding to what is going on in us. And then a dialogue begins. A deeper connection is created. As Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of NVC puts it. “When there exists a certain quality of connection, the solutions find us” (and not the other way around.(-:). So it’s an energetic opening, perhaps a spiritual one, grounded in a compassionate relationship.

Connection, conection, connection. Is there a being on this planet, who doesn’t yearn for it?

As the 16th century poet, John Donne put it: “ No man is an island”

I invite you to learn NVC, for more connection and a more empathic and peaceful world.

I offer one on one trainings and single consultations, presentations and workshops for groups.
I can be contacted at yael.brisker@ gmail.com or on Twitter - @yaelbrisker and on Facebook where I have a  page devoted to Empathy called  Empathic Connections

With Love


  1. Hi Yael,
    I discovered NVC through the Giraffe world and more specifically Sophie The Giraffe.. I think it is wonderful what you are doing and can only wish thsi was taught all over the world to human beings of all ages...
    Have a fabulous positive retreat! Looking forward to read more about it!

  2. Thank you Claire!! Will definitel have something to share!

  3. Dear Yael,

    Indeed these beautiful words sum up your 10 years of experience as a NVC worker, and I wish you all the best with the retrait! You have seeded, grown, blossomed and now the time is there you start spreading and sharing your fruit with all of us!

  4. Wonderful work Yael! Have fun on the retreat as I am sure it will be very interesting and a great opportunity to connect with so many other wonderful souls. Take care Tamar